Comments on: Just to Say Hello http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello Religion and spirituality from a Unitarian Universalist perspective Wed, 08 Oct 2008 04:33:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Shelby Meyerhoff http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3829 Shelby Meyerhoff Wed, 19 Sep 2007 19:24:11 +0000 http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3829 Ms. New, This must be very challenging. On the one hand, you want to show him that you care and are interested in reestablishing a romantic relationship. On the other hand, you want to be respectful of his personal boundaries, and to protect your own heart in the process. Ms. New, This must be very challenging. On the one hand, you want to show him that you care and are interested in reestablishing a romantic relationship. On the other hand, you want to be respectful of his personal boundaries, and to protect your own heart in the process.

]]> By: Ms. New person http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3798 Ms. New person Tue, 18 Sep 2007 17:18:30 +0000 http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3798 I was reading the entries and I didn't realize that others out there felt the same way. I finally found my high school sweetheart and I get to see him from time to time but I never call him to just say hi or at all for that matter. I get so scared that he might get annoyed with a simple hello and just talk because I don't want to interrupt him if he is busy. I of course am still very much in-love with him so maybe that's why I am a little shy about it but like you guys said maybe just calling to say hello will let him know that I still care. I was reading the entries and I didn’t realize that others out there felt the same way. I finally found my high school sweetheart and I get to see him from time to time but I never call him to just say hi or at all for that matter. I get so scared that he might get annoyed with a simple hello and just talk because I don’t want to interrupt him if he is busy. I of course am still very much in-love with him so maybe that’s why I am a little shy about it but like you guys said maybe just calling to say hello will let him know that I still care.

]]> By: Ms. Theologian http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3646 Ms. Theologian Thu, 13 Sep 2007 20:53:21 +0000 http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3646 I think Hafidha makes a great point, which I've been thinking about a lot. This could totally be an issue with the friends I've chosen, but in the past I really got the strong sense I'm bothering and interrupting friends when I call them (say within the last five years). Even neighbors that I like don't seem to like me calling. So I basically stopped. It could be me. :evil: I think Hafidha makes a great point, which I’ve been thinking about a lot.

This could totally be an issue with the friends I’ve chosen, but in the past I really got the strong sense I’m bothering and interrupting friends when I call them (say within the last five years). Even neighbors that I like don’t seem to like me calling. So I basically stopped. It could be me. :evil:

]]> By: Shelby Meyerhoff http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3630 Shelby Meyerhoff Thu, 13 Sep 2007 14:53:29 +0000 http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3630 Comforting but also a little sad to know I'm not the only one who has this experience. Ms. T, and Tracie, Maybe part of this is simply a result of growing up--all three of us remember making more calls earlier in life, and feeling less inhibited about it. I also wonder if it's a technological thing. I used to feel that I had to call someone if I wanted to touch base, so that if I was interrupting something else they would just understand (or not pick up the phone!) But now, there's so many alternatives, like e-mail and MySpace. It feels more intimate, even potentially intrusive, to call now. On the other hand, telephone conversations allow us to connect on a potentially deeper level. Hafidha makes the point that "What's the worst that can happen? Your friends think you like them?" And that is a very good thing. If someone calls me to see how I'm doing, I know that they cared enough to really take the time, and even put themselves out on a limb, to connect. Comforting but also a little sad to know I’m not the only one who has this experience.

Ms. T, and Tracie, Maybe part of this is simply a result of growing up–all three of us remember making more calls earlier in life, and feeling less inhibited about it. I also wonder if it’s a technological thing. I used to feel that I had to call someone if I wanted to touch base, so that if I was interrupting something else they would just understand (or not pick up the phone!) But now, there’s so many alternatives, like e-mail and MySpace. It feels more intimate, even potentially intrusive, to call now.

On the other hand, telephone conversations allow us to connect on a potentially deeper level. Hafidha makes the point that “What’s the worst that can happen? Your friends think you like them?” And that is a very good thing. If someone calls me to see how I’m doing, I know that they cared enough to really take the time, and even put themselves out on a limb, to connect.

]]> By: Tracie Holladay http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3612 Tracie Holladay Wed, 12 Sep 2007 23:10:21 +0000 http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3612 Hi! :waves: Thanks for the encouraging note. I've been in & out of one particular UU church since 1996, so I'll have to work my way back again. :) I'm also part of a pagan networking group there. Great entry. I also remember being on the phone for hours with friends, but now...I have a cell phone and never use it. I spend my days on a switchboard and do not talk on my phone almost at all at home (except maybe to order a pizza). Go figure. Hi! :waves:

Thanks for the encouraging note. I’ve been in & out of one particular UU church since 1996, so I’ll have to work my way back again. :)

I’m also part of a pagan networking group there.

Great entry. I also remember being on the phone for hours with friends, but now…I have a cell phone and never use it. I spend my days on a switchboard and do not talk on my phone almost at all at home (except maybe to order a pizza). Go figure.

]]> By: hafidha sofia http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3602 hafidha sofia Wed, 12 Sep 2007 17:20:06 +0000 http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3602 I was never a teenage phone user (mostly because I hardly had any friends), but I remember my mom being on the phone for several hours a day sometimes, catching up with all her friends. I never quite got into the phoning "just to say hi" thing out of fear that I'd be intruding on someone's activities. It's weird, I think. But common. I can totally relate to what you're saying. I have one friend who calls me regularly "just to say hi." Sometimes we'll talk for hours. I feel comfortable calling her, too. But with my other friends, I haven't made it a habit. I think it might be one of those things you just have to do. What's the worst that can happen? Your friends think you like them? Hmm. I need to consider that myself. I was never a teenage phone user (mostly because I hardly had any friends), but I remember my mom being on the phone for several hours a day sometimes, catching up with all her friends. I never quite got into the phoning “just to say hi” thing out of fear that I’d be intruding on someone’s activities.

It’s weird, I think. But common. I can totally relate to what you’re saying. I have one friend who calls me regularly “just to say hi.” Sometimes we’ll talk for hours. I feel comfortable calling her, too. But with my other friends, I haven’t made it a habit.

I think it might be one of those things you just have to do. What’s the worst that can happen? Your friends think you like them? Hmm. I need to consider that myself.

]]> By: Ms. Theologian http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3600 Ms. Theologian Wed, 12 Sep 2007 16:20:29 +0000 http://www.lookingforfaith.org/blog/2007/just-to-say-hello#comment-3600 Interesting. :) My husband and I have also noticed that we never call people to say hi anymore (even with unlimited long-distance) because we seem to be interrupting (TV usually) when we call. And no one calls us. I wonder if this is pretty widespread (loneliness, lack of phone calls and connections). Interesting. :)

My husband and I have also noticed that we never call people to say hi anymore (even with unlimited long-distance) because we seem to be interrupting (TV usually) when we call. And no one calls us.

I wonder if this is pretty widespread (loneliness, lack of phone calls and connections).

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